It was an unknown term to me when I was dating five long years back… I used to really like this guy and being in a long distance relationship mostly ended up talking for long hours…
Initially there is an urge, I understand rather we all know that… but over a period of time, people who are used to a lot of friends find it suffocating… As you age, you actually realize the meare feeling that your partner is around all the time aggravates and agitates your mind… And the only thing that you are looking for is to fuck off from that continuous attention seeking/ giving person… Yes, you noticed it right… Seeking as well as giving both seem like a life of a lion in a golden cage stating him to be like the president sitting and signing papers finalized by the prime minister!
The idea is not to flirt with someone else… It is to be free enough to talk to my own friends… You have just entered my life… they have been here for a long time now… Instantaneously yours is just not possible… Two years post I broke up… I never dated anyone that seriously but I definitely understood the meaning that my guy meant by ‘SPACE!’… I just wanted to be with myself… play games, select music, watch movies, gossip with friends, reading, painting or probably just sleep… yes my love for sleep was discovered then by me and has till date continued with an ever increasing need for more sleep…
Now, when I look back… though I am glad it was not the reason for the breakup but I definitely understand that it would have irritated him… coz now strangely I have some really close friends who just track my every move which pisses me off to the core… It’s the same way as guys say, “We do not like that you come to know the intentions behind every move or you derive meanings about what are we thinking now…”
Space is a very relaxing mood or an agitated mood wherein you seek calmness in things around but do not want to vent out on any third person by hurting them… You choose to be silent and not converse… and if that’s the case, please do give your partner the space as the more you leave them alone… the faster they recover from the mood…
3 comments:
Had recently started following u and ur blog. I cud relate to this one in particular as i feel i meted a similar fate due to the same reason. Not giving enough space to someone.
But what my POV uptil now has been the fact that not every person would be able to deal with it (the mood) all by himself/herself if left alone.
That is where friends come in and help getting over it quick! Yes it is violation of space at times but isnt that part of being friends?? Be able to pull someone up when he/she is unable to??
I wud definitely agree to shash... thts where perhaps ur close friends track u... they perhaps dont track u to knw wht u r doing at tht time... it must be just because they care for u...
apna apna nazariya hai...
Hey shash, I agree with you but then even frnds beyond an extent now i get irritate if they track me down!
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