Trivial things play a decent role in your life... you never know what comes and hits you off your track...
The other day my mother was shopping in the market and she came across a girl. Suddenly, the girl says, "Hello Aunty, how are you?"
My mother started chatting with her, so much so that she called me at home and ordered to reach the market ASAP only to meet someone whom I didn't recognize at all. By the time, I reached the spot, every passerby could hear the loud excitement and conversation the two were having where even my sister-in-law had arrived too. As soon as I reached, bewildered looked at my mother, "Hi Mom." Interested in who the hell is it, for I had to get my lazy bum out of the bed, change the clothes and walk a kilometer instead of hoping onto a rickshaw....
A cute girl smiled at me and excitedly said "Hi!! How are you?" and my mind is like 'Hi? Who are you?' ... Suddenly I remember like a hindi film heroine -'Isko pehle bhi kahin dekha hai.' but could not recollect where we had met. We talked a bit, though I was still guessing how did I know her in the first place. Its not deliberate but really awkward when you find yourself in the middle of the fixed spot where you are trying your really best and cursing yourself to have the worst memory in the world.
Finally I lost the patience and asked her, "Can you tell me where we met and I am sorry but I can't recollect your name too?"
"Arre tu bhul gayi kya?" she said.
I was like 'Ofcourse that's why I am asking you dude!'
"Main Kinjal. VU's classes. 10th standard. SNDT School."
"Oooo VU's yeah yeah yeah right..."
Turned out she was my best buddy in my last year of school at one of the private institutes *fish*. Not just that, I had invited her at my place once along with three other chicks out of which I remembered only one (but not this one). Not only did she remember my whole freaking family, but where I lived, what I liked, etc... We exchanged numbers and incidentally found out that since I shifted to a new place, she lived close-by, walkable distance. At the age of 20, when you have passed out college and are left with nothing else to look in life except make your career and check out every passing guy, you still have the biggest agenda in life, that is to get slim! And girls do talk about this stuff to any tom, dick or harry they meet, specially if the significant other is a Girl! After a few messages and one long meeting, we connected again!
We became best buddies again. Had long meetings, shared ups and downs of life, joys, sorrows and most important, the problems in life. While that friendship lasted for again a year or so, due to some reason, we again departed as friends and moved on in our lives. I got married, invited her on the most important day of my life, she obliged as well by being attending it and looking her best in a black saree! (I remember it very clearly you see)
Post that again, now after 10 years of that meet at the market, I found her on facebook. She added me instantly but now settled in our respective lives, we ofcourse don't reach out so often. But I realized that once when you truly connect to someone in life, its easy to revive the bond if both parties put in an equal bit of an effort. You meet several people in life, they form an integral part of everyday life for the time being and suddenly they vanish in thin air. You might think only you remember them. It's not entirely true, they miss you equally. The way I remember her right now and I have jotted down this whole freaking conversation instead of some cheesy love story, I am sure she remembered me too.
That's the thing, with facebook, instagram, twitter, all the communication channels connect us to everyone, even the ones we love. We are all part of atleast one of these channels but still fifty percent of us do not want to express our feelings out in open; be it for professional reasons, personal reasons, reserved nature, etc. The problem arises when we cannot connect beyond the likes... and if we reach till comments, we do not reach till messages with whom we actually want to share a lot.
Friendships in life replicate the stages of our lives. Old school friends, college friends, colleagues, spouse's friends, little one's friends' mothers/ fathers, etc. and every stage brings in some cool characters and shades making our lives colourful enough. Although multi-coloured options are available, we choose the colours that we like and are comfortable enough in that stage and funnily enough only that person in that particular stage knows how you were. As you grew, your options and your choices both change according to your nature and you ultimately find people that you are connected to!
The other day my mother was shopping in the market and she came across a girl. Suddenly, the girl says, "Hello Aunty, how are you?"
My mother started chatting with her, so much so that she called me at home and ordered to reach the market ASAP only to meet someone whom I didn't recognize at all. By the time, I reached the spot, every passerby could hear the loud excitement and conversation the two were having where even my sister-in-law had arrived too. As soon as I reached, bewildered looked at my mother, "Hi Mom." Interested in who the hell is it, for I had to get my lazy bum out of the bed, change the clothes and walk a kilometer instead of hoping onto a rickshaw....
A cute girl smiled at me and excitedly said "Hi!! How are you?" and my mind is like 'Hi? Who are you?' ... Suddenly I remember like a hindi film heroine -'Isko pehle bhi kahin dekha hai.' but could not recollect where we had met. We talked a bit, though I was still guessing how did I know her in the first place. Its not deliberate but really awkward when you find yourself in the middle of the fixed spot where you are trying your really best and cursing yourself to have the worst memory in the world.
Finally I lost the patience and asked her, "Can you tell me where we met and I am sorry but I can't recollect your name too?"
"Arre tu bhul gayi kya?" she said.
I was like 'Ofcourse that's why I am asking you dude!'
"Main Kinjal. VU's classes. 10th standard. SNDT School."
"Oooo VU's yeah yeah yeah right..."
Turned out she was my best buddy in my last year of school at one of the private institutes *fish*. Not just that, I had invited her at my place once along with three other chicks out of which I remembered only one (but not this one). Not only did she remember my whole freaking family, but where I lived, what I liked, etc... We exchanged numbers and incidentally found out that since I shifted to a new place, she lived close-by, walkable distance. At the age of 20, when you have passed out college and are left with nothing else to look in life except make your career and check out every passing guy, you still have the biggest agenda in life, that is to get slim! And girls do talk about this stuff to any tom, dick or harry they meet, specially if the significant other is a Girl! After a few messages and one long meeting, we connected again!
We became best buddies again. Had long meetings, shared ups and downs of life, joys, sorrows and most important, the problems in life. While that friendship lasted for again a year or so, due to some reason, we again departed as friends and moved on in our lives. I got married, invited her on the most important day of my life, she obliged as well by being attending it and looking her best in a black saree! (I remember it very clearly you see)
Post that again, now after 10 years of that meet at the market, I found her on facebook. She added me instantly but now settled in our respective lives, we ofcourse don't reach out so often. But I realized that once when you truly connect to someone in life, its easy to revive the bond if both parties put in an equal bit of an effort. You meet several people in life, they form an integral part of everyday life for the time being and suddenly they vanish in thin air. You might think only you remember them. It's not entirely true, they miss you equally. The way I remember her right now and I have jotted down this whole freaking conversation instead of some cheesy love story, I am sure she remembered me too.
That's the thing, with facebook, instagram, twitter, all the communication channels connect us to everyone, even the ones we love. We are all part of atleast one of these channels but still fifty percent of us do not want to express our feelings out in open; be it for professional reasons, personal reasons, reserved nature, etc. The problem arises when we cannot connect beyond the likes... and if we reach till comments, we do not reach till messages with whom we actually want to share a lot.
Friendships in life replicate the stages of our lives. Old school friends, college friends, colleagues, spouse's friends, little one's friends' mothers/ fathers, etc. and every stage brings in some cool characters and shades making our lives colourful enough. Although multi-coloured options are available, we choose the colours that we like and are comfortable enough in that stage and funnily enough only that person in that particular stage knows how you were. As you grew, your options and your choices both change according to your nature and you ultimately find people that you are connected to!
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