Those days are gone when to see that guy everyday, you used to visit college and wherein you don't even know his name. You visited your friend's house everyday only to interact with the sweet chick living next door. Intercollegiate competitions meant just checking out new guys and girls and forget them once the festival is over.
This is new age. People fall in love in a day without seeing each other by just talking on phone. Facebook is the new portfolio for all the models out there who might scare you in person. Twitter means meeting new chicks in tweetups and breaking the relationship on the web portal itself in public.
Is this what Gen Next thinks love is?
Love comes in only with a price. Price here means lying to parents to friends, going the wrong way, breaking rules, aligning your life with someone else's and a host of other problems or situations you may say which soemtimes brings you at the brink. You might think that this is just the end and you cannot work this out or suicide thoughts are an everyday norm. If so, you need to look at the situation of others. Probably sharing love stories is hence one hell of an experience.
I came across this article and was quite captivated not because it was a love story but because I wanted to know whether was there any love in this story?
http://www.dnaindia.com/lifestyle/report_dating-a-sociopath-made-me-insecure-and-paranoid_1627159
There is no harm in falling in love. But there is a cause of concern or an alarm that you need to keep at your end. What is this alarm?
Fall in love? Nope.
Rise in love!!!
Love asks for sacrifice but no sacrifice should crush your ethical values. It should lead you to love one more person in live but not leave everyone else whom you have loved all through the years. It should motivate you to achieve more heights in terms of confidence, career, etc. and not make you weak so much so that you fear your own mirror.
How do we do this?
Be friends first. Friendship gives you time to explore the person and his attitude towards life. Make the person meets your close friends and people whom you trust a couple of times. Be open to criticism about the person who you like, this will help you to know the person from a different angle. Meet the opposite person's close friends/ parents/ colleagues. A man is known by the company he keeps. Do you like them? If yes, then great. If not, why does he have such a company. Drinking and smoking is not a great deal these days but anything extreme is not good as well.
All of the above does not pertain to only serious relationships. This also applies to flings! You might not know where you might end up if you are stuck with a wrong person even for split 5 minutes.
Well, coming back, these are just a few steps before you step in into a relationship but what when you are already in. Keep a distance over a period of time. Do not reveal your financial details and seek much emotional support. Distance is always good in a relationship as advancing fast might earn you negative points as well. Spend enough time so as to know each other but do not forget to hang out with your family and friends as well. If this relationship does not work, they will be the ones to support you.
Last but not the least. Keep yourself updated and independent enough financially and emotionally throughout your life so you do not end up with a piece of paper and a pen attempting to write an unwanted suicide note! Love should make your life worth living and not tick your clock to death.
